Thanks @bdwalker1 ! RESET is a HIGHLY confusing topic for the Bean+ obviously. Here is what I think caused the problem and how I fixed it(with the suggestions from the forum).
Symptom: Bean+ is not discoverable (ie does not show in the loader discovered list)
Cause(I think?) : My sketch must have thought it was already connected or I turned off advertising somewhow (programmer error)
Solution 1(didn't work) : connect RST --> 3.3V for about 5 seconds...nothing, no change
Solution 2 : connect RST --> GND for 5 seconds...led flashed and I immediately was able to discover, connect and reprogram the Bean+ NOTE: This seems to only have restarted my sketch and did not clear it out which is what I wanted.
So..contrary to some suggestions.. my RST to GND was what really worked.
Lesson: It would appear the Bean+ could be easier to brick than the Bean. I say this because with the Bean there is a way to clear out the sketch with a special reset option. I would suggest this for the Bean+